You’ve seen those dogs that look like they are wearing a literal doggy coat which is 6 or 8 sizes too large. As puppies they are a phenomenon; you don’t know whether to feel sorry for them, cuddle them, or just laugh.
Sometimes I feel like that dog, like the expectations for me are way bigger than I am. I feel like everyone can see that I certainly don’t measure up. It can make you feel there is nothing you can do to measure up.
What if I used the same plan for “becoming me” as the dog does? What does that even mean? The Shar-Pei is born, through no effort of his own, with a bone structure/body frame under a huge, saggy pile of fur and skin. Then he becomes less ridiculous looking as his frame grows (mostly) into the size of his fur.
He doesn’t become enough to fill out that tent right away or quickly, but slowly as he matures, learns, eats and plays, he grows up till body and skin are a better match.
So if you give yourself time to slowly change, validating your progress, you will get to “be enough” to fill out the goals. Instead of looking for perfection and imposing unreachable deadlines, what if you enjoyed the process, rejoiced in the fact that you are alive and improving and growing? What if you accepted that it was a process rather than another deadline? And celebrate ANY progress!
Bonus, as you grow, you can imagine yourself getting less and less wrinkles, like the Shar-Pei. 🙂
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