Several times over my life, I was in a relationship with someone who had a painful and sad history. Being a very sympathetic person, I took their emotional pain very seriously and excused a lot of their behaviors. I would often think, “oh, if only I can support/encourage/validate them, they can move […]
Posts with the gut feelings tag
The Legend of the Missing Apology
I was reading a blog post by a skilled colleague today about when to apologize, why and what a real apology should be (http://www.mathiskennington.com/blog/2015/6/14/the-only-2-reasons-to-say-im-sorry ). It reminded me about one of the huge red flags that we experience when in relationship or even just encountering an N (someone with Narcissistic tendencies or a […]
More Powerful than You Know: Choose Change or Same
So often we get stuck in the limbo land of Change or Same. We can get so caught up in worrying about the things that will or won’t happen if we choose to do something different that we become frozen in place. Or so we think. We think, “I’ll just stand here until […]