If doing what is comfortable and familiar is bringing what you don’t want, maybe it’s time for uncomfortable and unfamiliar?
Like staying on the couch watching Netflix for hours on end, bringing flabby and breathless when you start moving? (Not that I am intimately familiar with this default action, or inaction) Maybe some less comfortable walking and stretching, to get where you want to be?
Or emotionally laying on the floor when life knocks you down again. You just want to lay there and cry, give up and give in. I hear you! And sometimes, for a little while, that is what you need to do. But then you gotta keep gettin’ up. Or you’ll end up living on the floor. And getting kicked while you’re down certainly won’t stop there!
Or relationships where you keep doing everything to make them happy and you keep getting treated as though you are from the reject pile at the local dog biscuit factory. You keep going out with the same kind of person. The type of personality that you know you are always drawn to.
Or this one seems better than the last one because maybe they are trying to impress you since the relationship is new. They tell you everything you want to hear. Bet that’s how the last bad relationship started too, with flattery. This can happen both in dating relationships and friendships.
But if you find you keep ending up feeling used and disrespected or just plain mistreated, maybe it’s time you tried spending time with different types of people. Maybe personalities you aren’t usually drawn to or a different body type, or different styles of activities and likes/dislikes; people you may have quickly ignored, misjudged or just not noticed before.
First, being exposed to new things can be interesting and we may find things we never knew we liked. Or you may begin to understand different points of view, and find things you’d like to try. It may give you some perspective about how you present yourself to the world, information about what you do and don’t like about yourself, and you might be surprised at how much fun it could be.
It also may help you start making some new and hopefully better choices about the people you allow into your life. It may show you what to look for in people who will treat you well, and help you learn to let people be nice to you. Sometimes that is a hard thing when you are used to having to do everything yourself. It may just expand your circle of friends. It might even lead to a better choice in the type of people you want to date, be in relationship with.
So do something a little different this week. Obviously, I don’t mean dangerously different. I mean some of the safe people who respect others, that you may never have even noticed before. Talk to someone this week; listen to their point of view. Have a conversation; build a bridge to a new way of thinking.
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